On 23/10/2008 bluey wrote:
>The main problem seems to be your discomfort with the fact that this fella
>appears to like you when you don't like him - take it as a compliment,
>and deliver any knockbacks kindly.
You're right! I think I just don't like someone being overly friendly and constantly trying to talk to me. Every time I turn around, he's there!...Though... he's always talking about himself...
>Cripes, what is this guy doing that is so full on?
>These days, everyone is so scared of rejection they never actually ask
>someone out, so usually come ons are pretty subtle
Yes, you're right about this too! I think there's a systemic problem. Give me a guy who's willing to throw their heart on their sleeves, rather than slyly asking to grab a coffee and giving me 15 minutes to get to know each other (of cause only the right guy should do this - otherwise I'm going to go running!)
Subtle, half arsed come ons are so sly! Like a slimy eel.
Okay, I'm off to practise my blank face as well and rehearse nice lines.
- and if he's making
>subtle hints or appears to think your climbing activities are dating activities,
>just pretend you don't realise. If they're subtle hints that you find offensive
>just say "Look mate, that's a bit much isn't it?" and if he's asking you
>out on dates or home for a shag, just say thanks, but no thanks?
>
>I just don't think it's that complicated.
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